Wednesday morning I woke up still feeling like shit. I drove through Chick-fil-A and ordered a #1 (chicken biscuit sandwich and tater tots)... this is one of my binge foods. Anyway, I did this ON THE WAY TO MY THERAPIST. Ridiculous... I just felt she couldn’t comfort me like the food could... I was wrong. Once I got there, she made me feel a lot better. I told her that I felt stressed and pressured and worried that I wouldn't be able to succeed in the program. I told her that maybe I wasn’t strong enough or ready to change. She told me that it was important to think about these feelings and figure out why I feel like I am not ready. She also told me that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A BIG ENOUGH BINGE. No matter how much food I eat, it is never enough to take away that deprived, lonely feeling. I am not sure if that has sunk in yet. She told me to accept that this is where my work is right now: to realize that there will never be enough food!
Here are some other notes that I wrote down during the session:
- It is very painful to think “What if bingeing really isn’t the answer?”
- At the end of a binge, I am disappointed and angry that the binge didn’t make me feel better.
- The deprived feeling is there whether I binge or not. It has nothing to do with food.
- I need to make a commitment to get to know that deprived feeling, that screaming voice that wants to be heard so badly.
- Part of me is angry that the bingeing isn’t working/stopping that feeling.
- Maybe this program will make me realize that I am not in this all alone.
After my appointment with the therapist, I went to work for a bit and then left again for my appointment with Amy, the head of the program. She ensured me that i wasn’t the only one having these fears. She mentioned that it took years to create these habits and I cannot break them right away... it will take time. We figured out an eating plan for Wednesday and Thursday, not a diet but a plan of the normal food I would eat. I felt really good about it. We also decided that it would be best for me to go to as many OA meetings and eating disorder anonymous (EDA) meetings as possible and that I would go to one that night (yesterday).
After the appointment, my plan was shot to hell. I didn’t keep any of it. I picked up something else for lunch, and that threw off my whole plan. That night, instead of eating dinner with two of my friends and going to an EDA meeting, I went home, got in bed because I felt sad, and slept for two hours. I then woke up and binged on Chinese takeout. So, of course, I felt horrible and anxious after the binge, and then ate badly today and felt angry and guilty.
This afternoon was the second group therapy session. I thought it went really well and it made me feel a lot better. I told the group about my fears and they shared similar ones. They told stories that I could relate to. We all decided to go to the next EDA meeting on Saturday morning. I WILL ATTEND! NO EXCUSES!
After group, I met my roommate and another friend at a restaurant by my apartment. I told them about the program and they were very supportive. So, although I did some bad things this week, I also made some big, positive changes for myself and that makes me happy/proud.